Forced distance in a time of traditional togetherness can deprive people of the physical comfort of a hug, a shoulder to cry on, and a sense of finality that is part of the grieving process when a loved one dies.
Online resources and resources are not a substitute for a gathering of loved ones and friends, but they can help families organize online memorials, memory books, and donations made in the memory of your loved one. We present some resources to help plan a remote funeral or memorial and otherwise honor those who died as a result of COVID-19.
Remember that performing a physical act can sometimes help you regain some freedom of choice during a situation that you would otherwise not be able to control. Here are additional tips to helpduring the pandemic.
Now have a Zoom, Skype or YouTube funeral or memorial service
The limitations of the coronavirus prevent us from having a funeral in person to honor the memory of those we have lost. If you're affiliated with a religious institution, get in touch to see what support your organization can provide in the short term – for example, literature about grief, individual video chats with you and your family members, or online prayer meetings.  Your family and friends can also hold a memorial service with(change these settings to ) or another video chat service such as or even a private YouTube channel. Sharing a eulogy or other prepared tribute, talks, poems, and personal stories – even about the rigors of being alone – can provide an opportunity to mourn together in a virtual community.
You can also record the memorial service to play later or to share with others who could not get online.
Set up a vigil that your community can see from the street
To honor the memory of the deceased family member, perhaps light large candles on your porch or windowsill and let others drive by and honk to provide support. Put a large box in your driveway so that people around you can drop off letters, flowers, or other items they may want to share as a sign of their support and grief – away from others.
When collecting items, make sure to handle them carefully and wash your hands after touching them. If you're in a risk group yourself, ask for deliveries, physical mail, and email. These gestures can mean a lot to others who have never said goodbye and want to support you.
Ask your religious institution for advice
While most churches, mosques, synagogues and other places of worship are closed to help prevent the spread of the corona virus, they can still be used as a way to help you mourn. If you are affiliated with any religious institution, get in touch to see how they can provide relief during this time.
One church is providing live streaming funerals and services for its congregation members. A synagogue also holds virtual prayer with Google Hangouts. One mosque streams the sermon and prayer live, while another outside the United States broadcasts the prayer through a speaker.
Ask your institution how they help those in need. See if you can talk to the religious leader, such as a priest, imam, or rabbi, if you need someone to pray or mourn during this time.
Planting something in your garden or in a pot
Planting a flower, ornamental shrub or even a fruit-bearing tree in the garden can be comforting as a symbol of life, hope or even just a way you have it chosen to honor the deceased.
Contact Online Support Groups
If someone in your area died, find a Facebook or other online group to share your thoughts and experiences, ask for ideas and even just read to know that you are not alone.
Live and Work Well, a wellness and behavioral health website, suggests seeking online support groups for grief and loss. You can find others in your area who are grieving through websites such as Grief Support. The groups are currently meeting online.
Make a donation in the memory of your loved one
If your friend or family member was involved in a charity or organization, you can make a donation in the person's memory and suggest that others do the same if they looking for ways to help.
You can also donate to charities that help the sick to contact their family. One organization is The Giving Back Fund – they raise money to buy tablets to put in hospitals so family members can say goodbye to critically ill patients.
Create a crowdsourced photo album or scrapbook
Collect all the photos you have of your loved one and ask friends and relatives to send you digital copies as well. Google Photos allows you to save an unlimited number of high-resolution photos for $ 2 per month. You can invite friends and family to upload their photos so they are all in one place. Then createto give you something tangible to browse through.
In addition, collect and print memories such as favorite stories and text messages and paste them into a physical notebook or scrapbook. You can also digitally share the messages in a virtual document.
Schedule a physical memorial service once the restrictions are lifted
Remember that the physical distance restrictions will not last forever and you can have a personal memorial service when it is safe to collect. If it helps you get closer to the closure, you can start planning the service, including what you want to say.
Accept and Ask for Help
Accepting help from others can be as useful to them as it is to you. Have those in your communityrun errands and help you get through the necessary but unpleasant logistics of informing people. Ultimately, you still have to contact banks and financial institutions yourself (due to password protection). The list can get overwhelming, so let others help where they can so you can do what you need to do: grieve, be busy with logistics, or whatever.
The information in this article is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as health or medical advice. Always consult a physician or other qualified health care professional if you have questions about a medical condition or health goals.