Despite my late husband’s insistence that Valentine’s Day was a “made-up holiday” (to which I replied, “That’s Thanksgiving too, but you’re still taking the day off”), he was smart – and kind – enough to make the gesture to make. He gave me gifts that I still use to this day, with good memories. A website, a personal domain, a database program that he wrote especially for me. These were his gifts, given from his heart with his own gifts as a programmer.
He was more than that – he was a skilled craftsman who loved carpentry. I still have the makeup box he made for me, bird’s eye maple with a mirror in the lid. I cherish it and all the memories we shared, especially all the private jokes we shared in our own special language: “It̵
The language of love, I have since learned, has many voices, even though they speak only to two people – the “in” jokes, the references to past events or memories. It doesn’t have to be a love affair either – a good friend of mine and I bonded for the first time when we sang the theme song for “Magilla Gorilla” together.
But what about you? What are the words, phrases or references that indicate personal jokes or memories with the special people in your life? Share the story and tell us in the comments!
Virge Randall is the editor of Senior Planet. She is also a freelance culture reporter who searches for hidden treasures and unsung (or underrated) treasures for Straus newspapers; her blog “Don’t Get Me Started” puts a quirky new twist on Old School New York City. Send your suggestions for Open Threads to her at email@example.com.